This first agreement has a strong connection both with «Mindset,» as proposed by psychologist Carol Dweck, and with the basics of neurolinguistic programming [NLP], as can be found in the writings of Brian Colbert. The idea of the way of thinking, and in particular the «growth mentality,» is that we can develop and transform our skills through dedication and work. NLP engages its practitioners with the power of language and how we use it internally to influence how we see ourselves and the world. Do your best – under all circumstances in your life. It doesn`t matter if you`re sick or tired. If you do your best, there is no way to judge you. And if you don`t judge yourself, there`s no way to suffer guilt, guilt and self-punishment. Let me use an example from the book: «You walk around the mall, and you see someone you like. This person addresses you and smiles, then leaves. You can make a lot of assumptions just because of this one experience. With this hypothesis, you can create a whole imagination. A whole dream starts to come from your assumptions, and you can believe, «Oh, this person really loves me.» In your head, it starts a whole relationship. You may even be getting married in this imaginary land.
But the imagination is in your head, in your personal dream» The Four Agreements©, published in 1997 and sold about 9 million times. He has been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly a decade. Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are those we make with ourselves. He said: «A single agreement is not such a problem, but we have many agreements that make us suffer, that make us fail in life. If you want to lead a life of joy and accomplishment, you must find the courage to break the agreements that are based on fear and that claim your personal power.» The way you see a movie corresponds to the chords you made with life. Your point of view is personal to you. That`s nobody`s truth except yours.
So if you`re kidding me, I know you`re dealing with yourself. I`m the excuse to drive you crazy. And you`re going crazy because you`re scared, because you`re mixed with fear. If you break a deal, you`ll do it again tomorrow and the next day. It will be difficult at first, but each day will be simpler and easier until one day you discover that you are governing your life with these four chords. And they`ll be surprised how your life has changed. You just have to live one day at a time. What this means is that Ruiz does what is best at all times so as not to regret it. Some days, your best is not as good as other days, and it`s good. As long as you`re honest in life, you`re not ashamed and you won`t fight after a less than stellar performance.